Surrender to the Chaos

by Stephen Mills on August 3, 2009


Life is getting more and more complicated.  There are more people, more cars, more things, more activities, more complications, and more choices.  Even if you live in the wilderness, if you are reading this blog you are participating to some degree in modern chaotic life.

If you want control, you are going to have a difficult time surviving in the chaos which now surrounds you.  Try this instead.  Instead of fighting the chaos and trying to control it, just surrender to it.  Accept it as a fact of life and let it go.

Yes, simplify your life, but no matter what you do the fire hose of life is going to keep spewing chaos at you.  Life is confusing, frustrating, and stressful.  Accept it and don’t worry about it.  It’s absolutely amazing what a change in attitude and perspective can do for you.

Imagine you are in the eye of a hurricane.  When chaos is spinning all around you, keep your head still and keep your cool.  By doing so, you can significantly reduce the impact the chaos has on you.  You’ll be incredibly effective as a result and you’ll be immeasurably more happy and serene.

What do you think? Leave a comment below.


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Diggy - August 4, 2009 at 6:48 am

Short but sweet!
Great way to bring a point across!

Thanks for the motivation Stephen! 🙂
.-= Diggy –´s last blog ..Get Rich – How anyone can do it, but not everyone will =-.


Jay Schryer August 4, 2009 at 7:49 am

I have long been a fan of being the eye of the storm. That’s how I survived most of my life. It’s almost like a mantra to me: “I am the eye of the storm. The chaos and confusion and drama of others swirls and rages around me, but I am an island of peace and serenity.”

It works for me! Thanks for posting this, I was in need of a reminder!
.-= Jay Schryer´s last blog ..One Love (My guest post on Southern Goddess) =-.


Vin - NaturalBias August 4, 2009 at 9:12 am

I think there are two sides to this. Some of the chaos is our own fault and technology has made it worse. Cell phones have made it difficult for people to get away from their work, email overwhelms people with countless requests and useless information, and to make it worse, it’s now customary for people to get their email on their cell phone! One day we’ll probably all have chips in our heads so that we can cut right to the chase and directly interrupt other people’s thoughts!

I think being in the eye of the storm has to be a compromise between surrendering to the lack of control you often have over other peoples actions and making sure that you’re not contributing to the storm yourself with unnecessary responsibilities.
.-= Vin – NaturalBias´s last blog ..Fresh the Movie: Your Part in Our Broken Food System =-.


Deb Owen August 4, 2009 at 9:35 am

I believe there are certain areas where we self-create chaos or we allow others, especially with the use of modern technology, interject their chaos into our lives. And so we can control some of the chaos and cut some of it back.

But the parts that we can’t control?
Yes. Those we need to accept and surrender to.

All the best!
.-= Deb Owen´s last blog ..are you a loser? (how do you define success?) =-.


Ross August 4, 2009 at 11:41 am

I’m ready to embrace the chaos@!
.-= Ross´s last blog ..August $50 giveaway =-.


Stephen Mills August 4, 2009 at 12:37 pm

@Diggy, thanks!

@Jay, great and thanks for stopping in to comment.

@Vin and @Deb, thanks for your thoughts and you both basically said the same thing. I agree with you both. We are the cause of a lot of chaos in our own lives and if you’ve read my blog you know I’m a big fan of changing that. But my point is that no matter what we do, there is a great big world of chaos that we can’t control. Even parts of it you can might NOT be be worth the effort. You can let a lot of it slip right off of you and slide on by. Some people, myself included, at times get upset over the chaos we are trying to manage when just letting it be would be far more simple. It would give us peace of mind and time to work on what is really important. On this I speak from personal experience.

Ross, me too! 🙂


Positively Present August 4, 2009 at 12:54 pm

Love the image of being in a hurricane while the world is swirling around me. I’m definitely going to visualize that the next time I’m super stressed out (oh, wait, that’s NOW, haha). It’s so important to remember that no matter what’s going on around us, we have the ability to control how we react. In the midst of chaos, we have the power to remain calm.
.-= Positively Present´s last blog to start right where you are =-.


Zeenat-Positive Provocations August 4, 2009 at 4:37 pm

Very nicely put. The point is simple “to accept”! I would like to think of it as the survival technique~ To Accept…
.-= Zeenat-Positive Provocations´s last blog ..Expectations or Contentment??? =-.


Keith August 4, 2009 at 9:10 pm

Hello Stephen,

Incredible article! I used to freak out on all the chaos that life seemingly provides. Over time I have discovered that my perspective is what needed to change, so now I work to live each day in they eye of the storm. Everyday I see so much “craziness” going on around me and I think “This will not affect me” and most of the time I get along very well. 🙂
.-= Keith´s last blog ..Be The Difference! =-.


Nate Gross November 20, 2009 at 1:10 am

I agree it’s all about your perspective. That’s one thing you can control. Good post!


Tabitha@ichoosebliss August 4, 2009 at 9:45 pm

After literally being in the eye of a hurricane I have to agree with your analogy.
.-= Tabitha@ichoosebliss´s last blog ..Totally Thankful Tuesday =-.


Nate Gross November 20, 2009 at 1:07 am

I like the eye of the storm analogy. I agree it is essential to keep your sanity and to deal with the storms of life. There really is no other option, because when the storm is over there is nothing you can do to change it, it happened, get over it. This approach has helped me to survive.

I disagree though with the idea of throwing up your hands and accepting the chaotic world, that like saying, “The world is ok just the way it is, who cares?” The world is NOT ok the way it is. It is in an unhealthy state. People are pitted against each other in this “survival-of the-fittest” selfish mess we all collectively created. I am not trying to be Debbie downer or anything, and I am really a positive person most of the time, but the chaos is definitely not OK. How do we fix it though? Who knows? But we need to fix it together, the problem is we would never be able to agree on the same soltution to push the snowball back up the hill.

The solution lies in realizing we are all in this together and what we do affects each other, and that we are not islands. Maybe someday we will make up our “collective mind” on a healthy way out of the chaos for all. For now, I’ll be the eye of the storm in my small sphere of influence.


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