Comments on: Set Yourself Free From Manipulative Relationships http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/set-yourself-free-from-manipulative-relationships.html Tools to improve your mind and escape the trap Fri, 10 Sep 2010 09:06:20 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: goodlady http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/set-yourself-free-from-manipulative-relationships.html/comment-page-1#comment-34430 goodlady Tue, 31 Aug 2010 23:58:33 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1373#comment-34430 Million thanks for the advice. Everything said are true. I was married for 25 yrs. and been with the same man for 28th years. I kinda know that he's such a big manipulator. However because I'm a devoted Catholic human being and came from a non family divorce I stayed with the marriage due to the fact that value my vows even though we only had a civil marriage and plus I invested so much time with the same person. The man that I was married for 25 yrs. have had some addiction. He smokes marijuna, heavy smooker, drinks 5 cans of beer every single day. He's the kind of a person that people would perceived him as Mr. nice guy because quite and very and pretentious. But behind my back he did many things, cheated on me, brought a woman in my house when I'm out of town. He always put guilt into my head in order to make himself feels better etc. etc. Enough of the Bustard, he's sick in mind. manipulative. And I will tell you the best thing I did for myself is to divorce the man. yes, it was a heartache but I know I did the right thing coz in a long run I don't have anybody playing mind games on me. He even manipulated my daughter agaisnt me since she was a little girl until she turned 12 yrs. old. So for those of you that are victims with this unfortunate relationship you need to get out soon. Believe me it will get worst the longer you stay with him or her and will caused you much more pain. Million thanks for the advice. Everything said are true. I was married for 25 yrs.
and been with the same man for 28th years. I kinda know that he’s such a big manipulator. However because I’m a devoted Catholic human being and came from a non family divorce I stayed with the marriage due to the fact that value my vows even though we only had a civil marriage and plus I invested so much time with the same person. The man that I was married for 25 yrs. have had some addiction. He smokes marijuna, heavy smooker, drinks 5 cans of beer every single day. He’s the kind of a person that people would perceived him as Mr. nice guy because quite and very and pretentious. But behind my back he did many things, cheated on me, brought a woman in my house when I’m out of town. He always put guilt into my head in order to make himself feels better etc. etc. Enough of the Bustard, he’s sick in mind. manipulative. And I will tell you the best thing I did for myself is to divorce the man. yes, it was a heartache but I know I did the right thing coz in a long run I don’t have anybody playing mind games on me. He even manipulated my daughter agaisnt me since she was a little girl until she turned 12 yrs. old. So for those of you that are victims with this unfortunate relationship you need to get out soon. Believe me it will get worst the longer you stay with him or her and will caused you much more pain.

]]> By: Life Advice In a Nutshell http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/set-yourself-free-from-manipulative-relationships.html/comment-page-1#comment-32476 Life Advice In a Nutshell Tue, 03 Aug 2010 02:02:33 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1373#comment-32476 [...] Time does not run backwards.  You do not get a do-over.  When you are lying on your deathbed, it is highly unlikely you will say “Boy I’m so glad I wasted my precious life putting up with all the drama and crap in my relationships.”  Read more… [...] [...] Time does not run backwards.  You do not get a do-over.  When you are lying on your deathbed, it is highly unlikely you will say “Boy I’m so glad I wasted my precious life putting up with all the drama and crap in my relationships.”  Read more… [...]

]]> By: dymphna http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/set-yourself-free-from-manipulative-relationships.html/comment-page-1#comment-8750 dymphna Sat, 12 Sep 2009 08:43:28 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1373#comment-8750 wow! I have been married for 21 years We have 3 children. We were albe to move from tx to nm to az because of his employment. I loved moving but when I tried to leave after 7 years together he said he would apply for a transfer to another state and take my children with him. Unfortunatly I believed him they were all in elemetary at this point. 2 yrs ago I tried to leave again. He stalked me, constantlly texted me ect ect ect. Well my 2 oldest graduated high school and they were not talking to me. I didn't get to graduate myself, so I missed a major point in their lives.:( Then he anounces he has taken an early retirement and is moving back to az from tx where we were. My youngest son wants me to come with them and I want to be with him. So here I am again. But I refuse to let him manipulaate me anylonger and will read some of the lines writen above for me to read every day till they are a part of me. And I would also like to print this out for my kids. They talk to me know :) Thank you wow! I have been married for 21 years We have 3 children. We were albe to move from tx to nm to az because of his employment. I loved moving but when I tried to leave after 7 years together he said he would apply for a transfer to another state and take my children with him. Unfortunatly I believed him they were all in elemetary at this point. 2 yrs ago I tried to leave again. He stalked me, constantlly texted me ect ect ect. Well my 2 oldest graduated high school and they were not talking to me. I didn’t get to graduate myself, so I missed a major point in their lives.:(
Then he anounces he has taken an early retirement and is moving back to az from tx where we were. My youngest son wants me to come with them and I want to be with him. So here I am again.
But I refuse to let him manipulaate me anylonger and will read some of the lines writen above for me to read every day till they are a part of me. And I would also like to print this out for my kids. They talk to me know :)
Thank you

]]> By: Stephen Mills http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/set-yourself-free-from-manipulative-relationships.html/comment-page-1#comment-4824 Stephen Mills Sat, 04 Jul 2009 21:42:49 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1373#comment-4824 @Arswino, thank you. I love that quote too. @Rosa, I think you are right about the hard part is realizing you are in such a relationship in the first place. Maybe I need to write an article on the signs. Thanks for your support! @Positively Present, thank you soooo much for that kind comment. @Tracy, that is too bad. It is strange that people don't realize what the consequences of their toxic behavior. But I guess the ones who do are no longer toxic. @ICONICFREEDOM, thank you for the comments. I truly loved this: "Careful the moments you place in your life for they will never return to you." :-) @CT Olson, thank you for the comment and for joining the discussion! @Chris Edgar, your point is well taken. You always need at least one enabler. Thanks for stopping in! @Dragos, your point about seeking acceptance from the outside opening the door for manipulation is so right on. Thanks! @Laron, thanks for stopping by. Yes, life is too short to "cure". Best to just let it go. @Arswino, thank you. I love that quote too.

@Rosa, I think you are right about the hard part is realizing you are in such a relationship in the first place. Maybe I need to write an article on the signs. Thanks for your support!

@Positively Present, thank you soooo much for that kind comment.

@Tracy, that is too bad. It is strange that people don’t realize what the consequences of their toxic behavior. But I guess the ones who do are no longer toxic.

@ICONICFREEDOM, thank you for the comments. I truly loved this: “Careful the moments you place in your life for they will never return to you.” :-)

@CT Olson, thank you for the comment and for joining the discussion!

@Chris Edgar, your point is well taken. You always need at least one enabler. Thanks for stopping in!

@Dragos, your point about seeking acceptance from the outside opening the door for manipulation is so right on. Thanks!

@Laron, thanks for stopping by. Yes, life is too short to “cure”. Best to just let it go.

]]> By: Living Free — The Rat Race Trap http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/set-yourself-free-from-manipulative-relationships.html/comment-page-1#comment-4801 Living Free — The Rat Race Trap Sat, 04 Jul 2009 10:18:27 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1373#comment-4801 [...] development and personal freedom than freedom from the rat race.  I’ve written recently about freedom from manipulative relationships, freedom from commitment, and freedom from compromise and [...] [...] development and personal freedom than freedom from the rat race.  I’ve written recently about freedom from manipulative relationships, freedom from commitment, and freedom from compromise and [...]

]]> By: Laron Henderson http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/set-yourself-free-from-manipulative-relationships.html/comment-page-1#comment-4776 Laron Henderson Fri, 03 Jul 2009 13:04:45 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1373#comment-4776 I love this article. I know so many manipulative people who throw fits and temper tantrums to try and get their way. They only see the world through their eyes and don't care about other people. They sympathy card is mostly the tactic they use and when that doesn't work they start to attack your character and always try to make you out to be the bad guy. Most of the time I simply tell them to grow up. It also amazes me how they seem to have all the solutions to other people's problems but their own. I've just learned to weed these people out and let them go. I love this article. I know so many manipulative people who throw fits and temper tantrums to try and get their way. They only see the world through their eyes and don’t care about other people. They sympathy card is mostly the tactic they use and when that doesn’t work they start to attack your character and always try to make you out to be the bad guy. Most of the time I simply tell them to grow up. It also amazes me how they seem to have all the solutions to other people’s problems but their own. I’ve just learned to weed these people out and let them go.

]]> By: Dragos Roua http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/set-yourself-free-from-manipulative-relationships.html/comment-page-1#comment-4704 Dragos Roua Wed, 01 Jul 2009 07:50:45 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1373#comment-4704 I've been there. I've been there for years. Manipulation comes from withing, the outside person is just a projection of your feelings of insecurity and low self-esteem. The moment I started to think I really deserve more, the manipulative person, who seemed solid like a rock so far (or like a mountain impossible to climb) just vanished away. The real power is to accept yourself as you are and start improving yourself, not searching for outside acceptance, which opens the doors to the manipulators... Thank you :-) .-= Dragos Roua´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/Edragonu-TheChoiceOfAPersonalPath/~3/wERGwWvX2r0/" rel="nofollow">July Mariner Promo Code</a> =-. I’ve been there. I’ve been there for years. Manipulation comes from withing, the outside person is just a projection of your feelings of insecurity and low self-esteem. The moment I started to think I really deserve more, the manipulative person, who seemed solid like a rock so far (or like a mountain impossible to climb) just vanished away.

The real power is to accept yourself as you are and start improving yourself, not searching for outside acceptance, which opens the doors to the manipulators…

Thank you :-)
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]]> By: It’s a love thing | Maryannaville™ http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/set-yourself-free-from-manipulative-relationships.html/comment-page-1#comment-4694 It’s a love thing | Maryannaville™ Wed, 01 Jul 2009 00:51:38 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1373#comment-4694 [...] Get Them Right and You Can’t Go Wrong! How to be Free from Manipulated Relationships Healthy Relationship tips Share/Save Category: Relationships, stories :health, home, [...] [...] Get Them Right and You Can’t Go Wrong! How to be Free from Manipulated Relationships Healthy Relationship tips Share/Save Category: Relationships, stories :health, home, [...]

]]> By: Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/set-yourself-free-from-manipulative-relationships.html/comment-page-1#comment-4652 Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching Mon, 29 Jun 2009 22:11:08 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1373#comment-4652 Thanks for this. One of the things this post reminds me of is that it's useful to remember that "it takes two to tango" -- that there can only be "drama" in a relationship if both people play their assigned parts, whether it's critic and criticized or something else. When you change your role you may naturally find the other person changing theirs. .-= Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.purposepowercoaching.com/site/?p=448" rel="nofollow">10 Motivational Metal Masterpieces</a> =-. Thanks for this. One of the things this post reminds me of is that it’s useful to remember that “it takes two to tango” — that there can only be “drama” in a relationship if both people play their assigned parts, whether it’s critic and criticized or something else. When you change your role you may naturally find the other person changing theirs.
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]]> By: CT Olson http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/set-yourself-free-from-manipulative-relationships.html/comment-page-1#comment-4648 CT Olson Mon, 29 Jun 2009 19:52:09 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1373#comment-4648 Wow what a great topic. Interesting as far as the discussion as well. Thanks so much! Something that's always fascinated me is why people get stuck in them ... the comment by Alex is particularly counterintuitive to me but I sense true. Wow what a great topic. Interesting as far as the discussion as well. Thanks so much!

Something that’s always fascinated me is why people get stuck in them … the comment by Alex is particularly counterintuitive to me but I sense true.

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