Comments on: Give More of Yourself By Being Selfish http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/give-more-of-yourself-by-being-selfish.html Tools to improve your mind and escape the trap Fri, 10 Feb 2012 13:47:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: TJ http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/give-more-of-yourself-by-being-selfish.html/comment-page-1#comment-45092 TJ Sun, 21 Nov 2010 12:43:59 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=698#comment-45092 Thank you for your article. I came across your blog while flitting around the web and saw this post. I agree with you, and I truly believe that we should think about ourselves even while we think of others. In the end, we're all self-serving people. And if helping your own life and feeling good is part of the reason we help other people, then it really shouldn't matter. Often when we give, we receive many times that in return. Giving, be it time, effort, money, etc., should be about that desire to help others, but if you do it to discover the world, meet people and feel good about helping people as well, then there's absolutely no wrong in that. Only when your primary aim for helping is to mitigate any guilt you may have, should you need to start reflecting about the way you live life. Thank you again for your post. It has opened up so much thought for all of us. Thank you for your article. I came across your blog while flitting around the web and saw this post. I agree with you, and I truly believe that we should think about ourselves even while we think of others. In the end, we’re all self-serving people. And if helping your own life and feeling good is part of the reason we help other people, then it really shouldn’t matter. Often when we give, we receive many times that in return. Giving, be it time, effort, money, etc., should be about that desire to help others, but if you do it to discover the world, meet people and feel good about helping people as well, then there’s absolutely no wrong in that. Only when your primary aim for helping is to mitigate any guilt you may have, should you need to start reflecting about the way you live life. Thank you again for your post. It has opened up so much thought for all of us.

]]> By: Spencer http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/give-more-of-yourself-by-being-selfish.html/comment-page-1#comment-31693 Spencer Sun, 18 Jul 2010 19:10:38 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=698#comment-31693 You talk about self righteousness yet in the end you come back to say you should still think of bettering others lives. You are right when saying the most important person is yourself, for we are living our own lives and have no say in others. The only persons life who should benefit from your hard work is your own. You say you don't want to drain others or become a burden, yet what are you allowing others to do when they accept your charity? Now you might say they are not burdening you because you first thought about yourself, and financially allowed yourself to not be affected after giving charity. Then what are you giving as charity? The scraps after dinner? The leftovers after buying a flat screen? Now tell me what the charity has become. Its nothing but your selfish desire to do something good because in your twisted head it makes up for bettering yourself earlier. You talk about self righteousness yet in the end you come back to say you should still think of bettering others lives. You are right when saying the most important person is yourself, for we are living our own lives and have no say in others. The only persons life who should benefit from your hard work is your own. You say you don’t want to drain others or become a burden, yet what are you allowing others to do when they accept your charity? Now you might say they are not burdening you because you first thought about yourself, and financially allowed yourself to not be affected after giving charity. Then what are you giving as charity? The scraps after dinner? The leftovers after buying a flat screen? Now tell me what the charity has become. Its nothing but your selfish desire to do something good because in your twisted head it makes up for bettering yourself earlier.

]]> By: Donations: 8 reasons why it sucks to donate | Tomasz Gorecki | Debt In Your 20's Is The Kiss of Death http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/give-more-of-yourself-by-being-selfish.html/comment-page-1#comment-1353 Donations: 8 reasons why it sucks to donate | Tomasz Gorecki | Debt In Your 20's Is The Kiss of Death Sat, 18 Apr 2009 03:01:33 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=698#comment-1353 [...] Give more of yourself by being selfish [...] [...] Give more of yourself by being selfish [...]

]]> By: Stephen - Rat Race Trap http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/give-more-of-yourself-by-being-selfish.html/comment-page-1#comment-340 Stephen - Rat Race Trap Tue, 17 Mar 2009 04:42:28 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=698#comment-340 @Glen, that's a very good point. I love the Warren Buffet trivia! @Jonathan, thanks. Yes, you are right about life's lessons being expensive sometimes. If we look for the lessons we can learn a great deal from those mistakes. @Glen, that’s a very good point. I love the Warren Buffet trivia!

@Jonathan, thanks. Yes, you are right about life’s lessons being expensive sometimes. If we look for the lessons we can learn a great deal from those mistakes.

]]> By: Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/give-more-of-yourself-by-being-selfish.html/comment-page-1#comment-339 Jonathan - Advanced Life Skills Tue, 17 Mar 2009 02:24:54 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=698#comment-339 Hey Stephen, I think you nailed it my friend. Sounds like you have learned a hard lesson about taking care of your health. A lot of people have had similar experiences, partially because our culture puts more emphasis on money that it does on health. I am glad to hear that you are almost past it. Sometime life's lessons come with a cost. As long as we've paid the price, we might as well learn the lesson. Excellent post. Hey Stephen,

I think you nailed it my friend. Sounds like you have learned a hard lesson about taking care of your health. A lot of people have had similar experiences, partially because our culture puts more emphasis on money that it does on health. I am glad to hear that you are almost past it. Sometime life’s lessons come with a cost. As long as we’ve paid the price, we might as well learn the lesson. Excellent post.

]]> By: Glen Allsopp http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/give-more-of-yourself-by-being-selfish.html/comment-page-1#comment-334 Glen Allsopp Mon, 16 Mar 2009 11:23:49 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=698#comment-334 Nice post Stephen. You say: <blockquote>I believe that the greatest gift I can give to my fellow human beings is to not be a drain on their resources. </blockquote> There may be a time when you actually are a drain on the resources of others, through no choice of your own. Therefore, maybe it's best to give all you can now incase that is ever the case. Someone left a comment on my blog recently about how when Warren Buffett was worth $880m why he didn't give it all away to charity. He said because he can make more money with that and then donate more. of course, now he's donated over $30bn ;) Cheers, Glen Nice post Stephen.

You say:

I believe that the greatest gift I can give to my fellow human beings is to not be a drain on their resources.

There may be a time when you actually are a drain on the resources of others, through no choice of your own. Therefore, maybe it’s best to give all you can now incase that is ever the case.

Someone left a comment on my blog recently about how when Warren Buffett was worth $880m why he didn’t give it all away to charity. He said because he can make more money with that and then donate more. of course, now he’s donated over $30bn ;)

Cheers,
Glen

]]> By: Stephen - Rat Race Trap http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/give-more-of-yourself-by-being-selfish.html/comment-page-1#comment-329 Stephen - Rat Race Trap Mon, 16 Mar 2009 01:33:24 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=698#comment-329 @Michael, I think we are right there on the same wavelength! Great stuff once again. @Michael, I think we are right there on the same wavelength! Great stuff once again.

]]> By: Stephen - Rat Race Trap http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/give-more-of-yourself-by-being-selfish.html/comment-page-1#comment-328 Stephen - Rat Race Trap Mon, 16 Mar 2009 01:32:35 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=698#comment-328 @Kymmy, when I read your comment, for a moment I thought you were saying "ensure that I am all good looking"! LOL! (I'm sure you are after all) Thanks for stopping by and contributing to the continuing dialogue :-) @Giovanna, you are so right with the airplane mask example. When it really counts you have to be all there. Thanks! @Kymmy, when I read your comment, for a moment I thought you were saying “ensure that I am all good looking”! LOL! (I’m sure you are after all) Thanks for stopping by and contributing to the continuing dialogue :-)

@Giovanna, you are so right with the airplane mask example. When it really counts you have to be all there. Thanks!

]]> By: Personal Development Tips http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/give-more-of-yourself-by-being-selfish.html/comment-page-1#comment-327 Personal Development Tips Mon, 16 Mar 2009 01:18:53 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=698#comment-327 Good Morning Stephen, You and I are so in tune with each other! I am definately a giver (in general) I am very self sufficient and rely heavily on myself to be able to provide support, coaching and mentorship to my team members, friends and colleagues. The best way to do this effectively is to ensure that I am all good and looking after myself. You cant expect much of yourself if you dont keep yourself in peak condition and up to any challenge! I will be back to keep an eye on your valuable articles - thankyou for your great work :) Kymmy Link Good Morning Stephen,
You and I are so in tune with each other!
I am definately a giver (in general) I am very self sufficient and rely heavily on myself to be able to provide support, coaching and mentorship to my team members, friends and colleagues.
The best way to do this effectively is to ensure that I am all good and looking after myself. You cant expect much of yourself if you dont keep yourself in peak condition and up to any challenge!
I will be back to keep an eye on your valuable articles – thankyou for your great work :)
Kymmy Link

]]> By: Giovanna Garcia http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/give-more-of-yourself-by-being-selfish.html/comment-page-1#comment-326 Giovanna Garcia Mon, 16 Mar 2009 00:00:56 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=698#comment-326 Hi Stephen It all start with you. If you want to help the poor, you cannot be one of them. In the airplane they always said in case of the air mask come down, put your own mask on before tending to a child. You are good for no one if you are not good yourself. Giovanna Garcia Imperfect Action is better than No Action Hi Stephen

It all start with you. If you want to help the poor, you cannot be one of them. In the airplane they always said in case of the air mask come down, put your own mask on before tending to a child. You are good for no one if you are not good yourself.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action

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