Don’t Give Away Your Happiness

by Stephen Mills on August 7, 2010


Your happiness is very precious; it may be the most important gift you have been given.  And yet I would wager that you are giving much of it away.  I do.  We all do.

Do you have a boss that makes you mad?  Is there a toxic person in your life who makes you depressed or causes you to seethe with anger and frustration?  Do you stress out over the idiot drivers on the roads?  You are handing your happiness over to them; just giving it away as if it were nothing.

Are you drug down by the burdens of daily life; of making ends meet?  Are you depressed by illness or disease?  Are you tired of obligations and commitments?  Do you whine that you don’t have time to do what you want?  You are giving away your happiness to circumstances; throwing it in the trash can of an imagined difficult life.

You Have a Choice

I do not believe that the universe has a plan for me and I’m not into Pollyanna positive thinking.  However things are and for whatever reason they are the way they are, you can simply accept them as a given at that moment.  Who cares how they got that way?  Just because they aren’t the way you think they should be, doesn’t mean you should flush your happiness birthright down the toilet.

Often, way too often, I find myself giving away my happiness to others or to the situation I find myself in.  When I realize that and resolve to take it back, I find my life immeasurably improved.  With absolutely no change in external circumstances, I have changed my reality and made my life a whole lot better.  It’s really that easy.

The hard part seems to be that giving away your happiness tends to be the default mode most people operate under.  It’s a very difficult habit to break.  I find that automatically reminding myself with calendar appointments that send an alarm or by hanging up signs work very well.  I’m going to hang a sign that says

Hold On to Your Happiness and Never Ever Give it Away

in as many places as I can think of, as a constant reminder to take back that which is mine by right.  What about you?  Are you going to resolve to hold onto your happiness or are you going to foolishly give it away?

What do YOU think?  Leave a comment and join the conversation.


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Suzanne August 8, 2010 at 9:39 am

You are absolutely correct; we give it away.

The first step is to realize that the only person who’s behavior, thoughts and actions that I control is myself. However, that is the one that we can’t/don’t even begin to take until we get past that foggy existence where we spend much of our lives. I mean, you and I are already many steps down the awareness path. Yet, we weren’t born that way. It began with a curiousness that led us to want to learn more.

Choosing is such a powerful concept. And one I remind myself of daily, as situations arise and I must choose how to feel, how to respond, how to cope, how to appreciate, etc. By gaining this awareness, I have freed myself of much torture by realizing the power of my choice. I have used that power to appreciate each moment, just as it is, because the sum of it all is my life.

Without that exploration, I wouldn’t have learned that life just is; it is me who chooses to see it one way or another.
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Tommy White August 8, 2010 at 6:01 pm

Hi Suzanne, I stumbled across your website while researching ideas for a song I’m writing about “getting free” from the rat race, and livivg my life the way I want to! I love the line about the universe having a plan for you! Maybe I could somehow work it into the song….Anyway I’m glad to find people with the same ideals as myself and hope one day to have my own brand of happiness! I’ll be in touch Thanx T W


Kaz August 9, 2010 at 10:44 am

Thank you for sharing this. I am in a challenging job with lots of negative things going on that seem to pull me down. It is silly that it can effect me this way but unless I make a concious effort not to let it get to me I do seem to giving my happiness away.

Such a silly thing to do when it is just at this moment in my life. I am working to change the job I hate (seeking a new one) but it will take time. I need to be happy with where I am now and where I’m aiming to be and working towards being in the future….


Chris August 14, 2010 at 9:11 am

How easily we forget that we gave away our happiness! As you wrote, we often aren’t aware we’ve given our peace away until phrases like, “He makes me…” or “They make me…” The post was a great reminder to help me stay more aware of my own thoughts and retain my personal power!


Jill August 18, 2010 at 11:25 pm

I use to give mine away, too. I do not anymore. I sold my house and business and bought an RV. I travel and do whatever I want. I work on the computer and I enjoy life. I know that not everyone can do what I do but, they really should give it a try.


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