Do You Feel Life is Giving You the Finger?

by Stephen Mills on March 18, 2009

Down and Out

“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in the world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them.” — George Bernard Shaw

I read this recently and I loved it.  I have been reading it every day.  I am developing a deep passion for the idea contained within it.  Losers blame circumstances.  That’s why they are losers.  Period.  Circumstances don’t happen to you.  You create your own circumstances by how you respond to events in the external world.  If you “do nothing” then that is the action of non-action and thus even then you are creating your own circumstances.

Did you get laid off?  If so you, you laid yourself off by your actions prior to the event.  How are you reacting to that event?  Your reaction is creating your circumstances.  Is the stock market drop impacting your finances?  Why?  How are you responding?  How did you get into a position where it could hurt you?  Did the universe force you into this position?  How are you reacting?  You are creating your circumstances right now.

This is a money making opportunity.  Volatility is where the big money opportunities always lie.  Stability doesn’t provide anywhere near the opportunity for creative people that instability and change does.  We are living in exiting times.  **** the news media and everyone else who is crying crocodile tears.

If you want to have a pity party, I’m not interested. Nobody would show up for mine and I’m not showing up for yours.  I threw myself a pity party a few months ago and it was almost a funeral.  Accept your feelings because they are real, and then adjust your mindset to one that is positive.

You have a basic choice about how you create your life and create it you will no matter which choice you make.  You can:

  1. Float aimlessly in the turbulence like a ship without a crew and end up shipwrecked.
  2. Take massive and decisive action to create the life you choose.

What can you do?

  1. Accept responsibility for where you are and accept it totally.
  2. Write down your vision, purpose, and goals.
  3. Create a 30-day massive action plan to begin the process.
  4. Give that 30-day plan a chance to show progress, even a small amount.  Whatever results you see will encourage you to do more.
  5. Understand that you will struggle.  It takes courage to take action.  Inaction allows you to be safe and say “Life did it to me”.
  6. Stop complaining.
  7. Focus on one thing at a time or you will dilute your results and fail.
  8. Find like-minded people to associate with.  You can encourage one-another.
  9. Do not accept ANY limiting talk or behavior from anyone and that includes yourself.
  10. Keep your eyes on your prize; the ultimate goal for which you act.  This will keep you motivated.

“Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal.” — Henry Ford

Let me close with another quote from George  Bernard Shaw.  This is an inspiring and incredibly positive view of life.

“Life is no brief candle to me. It is a sort of splendid torch which I have got a hold of for the moment, and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations.” — George Bernard Shaw

Burn up your life. Leave something of yourself in those you touch along the way. Decide right now to start taking decisive action to change your circumstances and weave your own dream.

{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

Marj Galangco March 19, 2009 at 4:47 am

Lol.. love the title, Stephen!
I recently felt this way when I was met with seemingly numerous ‘obstacles’ when I decided to change a specific habit of mine. I thought, “WTF is the Universe not supporting me on this one?”
WRONG question.
When I calmed down I reminded myself that:
1. Things/people/events are as they are. When I label them as “annoying”, “inconvenient”, “bad”, I make them as such in MY experience. But in reality these are merely mental concepts.
2. Whenever I look back and reminisce the most meaningful experiences I’ve had, I always think of those that made me stronger, wiser, bigger, brighter.
3. I would NEVER have had such meaningful experiences if I wasn’t met with challenges, obstacles, or resistance.
Just think – caterpillars, when they’re in their cocoons, literally break down and turn into liquid/mush – before they turn into butterflies.
Just think – kites cannot fly without the force of the wind going against them.
Just think – the darkest moment is just before the break of dawn.
So be glad and accept your challenges with a grateful heart – they are the very things that will make you fly, grow, and sparkle! 😉
I hope I remember these whenever I judge the present moment as something other than it IS.
Have a great day, everyone!


kirwin March 19, 2009 at 9:08 am

Wow. What a great way to start the day!

I totally agree in that we choose how to react to situations and circumstances. We can either have a giant pity-party, like you said, or we can become even stronger. It’s what truly makes someone a hero.


Stephen - Rat Race Trap March 19, 2009 at 10:08 am

@Marj, thanks! I was in a little mood when I came up with that.

@Marj and Kirwin, I know how difficult it can be to not see yourself as a victim of circumstances. I’ve also struggled with it. I used to think the world crapped on me sometimes but it really doesn’t. That’s why some people are successful, over and over again, and others are not. It’s all dependent upon how one reacts. I don’t remember where I read it but I saw it explained like this once:

E+R=O. Event + Reaction = Outcome. That tiny formula contains a key to success if you understand it and put it in practice. Since you control R, you Control O.


Get Happy Life November 13, 2010 at 10:13 am

I needed this motivational push so much right now! I will now start writing my master thesis, I really wasn’t motivated very much! Thanks
Get Happy Life´s last blog post ..Don’t Be in Rush – Ever


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