From the category archives:

The Now

Your Personal Reality and Groundhog Day

by Stephen Mills August 25, 2009
Groundhog Day

Is all this just a bunch of irrelevant doublespeak? No, on the contrary it is an insight that, if you accept and internalize, can make all the difference in the world. Instead of having to suffer in the present to create an ideal reality in a future that may never arrive, you can alter your perspective by changing your personal reality now. Then you may discover that you are already living in an ideal reality right here and right now. Instead of hopelessly trying to create perfection, you are discovering the perfection that you already have.

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I Don’t Mind What Happens

by Stephen Mills August 21, 2009

We get caught up in a thousand ridiculously small things that don’t really matter and we burn up our psychic energy dealing with them. I’m not talking about small acts of kindness or taking small steps to get going or other positive small actions. I’m talking about sweating the small stuff of life and blowing them up into things that matter, when in reality they don’t mean squat.

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Accepting What Is Does Not Mean Giving Up

by Stephen Mills August 18, 2009
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You can be thankful for the fact that you have a job. You can be doing an extraordinary job at whatever it is you do. You can live in the moment while realizing that each moment is a step to the next moment. You can maintain perspective and even consider yourself lucky that you are better off than most.

You can do all of this while at the same time looking to improve yourself and grow in every way you can. You can strive to live each day more than you lived the last while being happy and at peace with what is during each of those days. You can be totally happy now and at the same time strive towards more dreams in your future.

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Being Extraordinary

by Stephen Mills August 12, 2009
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These various sources and examples as well as my own experience, demonstrate very clearly to me that you don’t have to be in any particular job or circumstance to be extraordinary and make a difference in your world. It’s not about your circumstances, it’s about you. You no longer have any excuse not to be extraordinary.

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More About Living in the Now

by Stephen Mills July 2, 2009

Maybe you are being taken advantage of, maybe the activity you are engaged in is tedious, maybe someone close to you is dishonest, irritating, or unconscious, but all of that is irrelevant. The fact is that your are resisting what is. You are making the present moment into an enemy. You are creating unhappiness, conflict between the inner and outer. –Eckhart Tolle

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Are You Addicted to Speed?

by Stephen Mills June 13, 2009
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Rushing around from one activity to another, focusing on getting things done, we tend to place all our priorities on accomplishing tasks on our lists – doing routine housework; preparing meals and eating; commuting to work; getting things done at work; putting in time at the gym; driving our kids to soccer games, swimming lessons, and birthday parties; staying in touch with friends; taking the dog to the groomer; and so on. Are you tired yet? In the midst of it all, we become slaves to our to-do lists and become doers instead of be-ers. We give ourselves little or no time feel, to more fully experience much of our lives. We forget that our capacity to feel is the very essence of our vitality. Without feeling, we become zombies or robots, and after a while we are left with a vague sense that our lives are unfulfilled, empty, lacking purpose, and devoid of anything resembling vitality.

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Live Now – Part III

by Stephen Mills June 7, 2009
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Forget the past. It is almost always a hindrance. In my opinion the best use of the past is to draw on memories to produce emotional states that are good for you. Otherwise, leave the dead past where it belongs – buried and forgotten. It hurts you far more than it helps you. If you must occasionally draw upon it to learn a lesson then fine. Go there only occasionally and briefly and then get right back to the present moment.

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Live Now – Part II

by Stephen Mills June 6, 2009
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Just imagine what it would be like to go through your day, every day, without anything bothering you? Just accepting life as it happens and being in the moment living it all the time and not just occasionally? I may be on some kind of natural drug, but I am now convinced this is attainable.

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Living Now – Part I

by Stephen Mills June 4, 2009
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If you get caught up in non-stop thinking you will go mad in a way. I’ve spent most of my life in that condition. You will find that no matter what your intent, if you constantly think, you will dwell on the past, worry about the future, and quite simply forget to actually live; really live. You will do exactly what Tolle says and think repetitive and useless or harmful thoughts. This will happen automatically no matter what your intent. That bold phrase is the key. I can’t prove it to you, but it’s simply the way your mind works.

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