From the category archives:


Why Life’s Big Events Don’t Matter So Much

by Stephen Mills February 6, 2013

That dream job, promotion, mate, house, car, or dreaded breakup, surprise job loss, devastating diagnosis may not matter so much. Most of us dream about or worry about how big events in our lives are going to make us happy or bring us down. A lot of research though actually indicates that it isn’t those big things that really matter.

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Sunk Costs, The Past, and The New Year

by Stephen Mills January 13, 2013

The central point is the past is the past and any investment that occurred in the past is already sunk, therefore the term “sunk costs”. If you continue something because you have already invested time or money or some other resource in it, you are simply compounding your original mistake.

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What Doesn’t Kill You – and What Does

by Stephen Mills June 26, 2012

Friedrich Nietzsche said what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, but I’m convinced what doesn’t kill you makes you afraid. This article is about what doesn’t kill you. I get so tired of the media inspired hysteria and hype. We worry about these non-threats due to the availability heuristic of the human brain that comes from dramatic images and stories we see in the media. We can easily bring to mind examples and it makes our brains think they are common occurrences.

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The Hour Between Dog and Wolf – A Review

by Stephen Mills June 12, 2012

This is a review of The Hour Between Dog and Wolf: Risk Taking, Gut Feelings and the Biology of Boom and Bust. This strangely titled book is about how stress, excitement, and risky behavior triggers changes in body chemistry and by that our behavior.  The story is told with financial traders, but the same ideas […]

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Should You Embrace Your Negative Thoughts and Urges?

by Stephen Mills February 19, 2012

I know this is a rather strange suggestion, but I have recently finished an excellent book on willpower: The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It.  Towards the end of that book there was a chapter called “Don’t Read This Chapter: The Limits of […]

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Guitar Zero–A Review

by Stephen Mills February 12, 2012

This is a review of Guitar Zero: The New Musician and the Science of Learning.  It comes from my reading of a copy of the book prior to its release date.  My review on Amazon is the first one and listed under “Book Fanatic”.  Some parts of that review are also included here. Guitar Zero […]

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Beware of Pseudo Self-Esteem

by Stephen Mills January 29, 2012

Over the past few decades there has been a vast wave of pseudo self-esteem washing over our culture.  Pseudo self-esteem has displaced true self-esteem and created a nation of the entitled and narcissistic, especially in the less than 45 age group. True self-esteem is based upon an a self-appraisal of one’s own competence and worthiness.  […]

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Three Unconscious Influences on Our Behavior

by Stephen Mills January 1, 2012

Note from Stephen:  This is a guest article from Dr. Sean Sullivan.  Dr. Sullivan has a book and online course available called “The Mind Masters Silent Journey” which I am currently evaluating.  I will be writing a review of them when I’m finished.  The last part of this article is an excerpt from his material. […]

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Does Money Buy Happiness After All?

by Stephen Mills December 19, 2011

Interestingly income in the U.S. affects daily emotional well-being (enjoyment, happiness, sadness, anger, worry, stress) up to about $75,000 of household income. That’s not exactly a subsistence level of income and is significant in that 2/3 of U.S. households are below that level. This indicates an increase in stable income would positively impact 2/3 of U.S. households in their day-to-day happiness levels.

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Rethinking Positive Thinking

by Stephen Mills November 24, 2011

I now believe that much of the current propaganda about positive thinking is at minimum misguided and likely counter-productive for many people. It amounts to self-help snake oil. This represents a change in my own beliefs brought about by my own experience, my observations of others, and a lot of reading and thinking about it.

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