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Happiness

Be Thankful For Being Good Enough

by Stephen Mills November 26, 2010

It’s not enough to have a happy marriage, you need to be as ‘connected’ as conjoined twins and have mind-blowing sex three times a week.

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Circumstances as a Feedback Loop

by Stephen Mills November 13, 2010

I find it incredibly useful to view my circumstances as part of a feedback loop that is a basic component of my life. This is a very simple thing to do, although it is often not easy. Simple as in easy to understand; not complicated. However, it goes against human nature, culture, and a life time of habit and that is what makes it difficult. Thinking of circumstances as feedback that you use as part of your continuous growth is an excellent way of detaching from your outcomes. When you are able to detach from outcomes you are well on your way to a life of peaceful well-being.

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Top 25 Small Things You Let Ruin Your Mood

by Stephen Mills October 20, 2010

For me personally, and I think for most people, it is easier to notice and correct your negative reaction on those occasional “big issues”. In reality though, it’s not the occasional big issue that make you unhappy; rather it’s the accumulated wear and tear of all the small things all day every day that grind your mood down.

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The Problem With Resistance

by Stephen Mills October 13, 2010

Resistance and struggle against that which opposes you or that which you don’t like is very often the worst thing you can do. Just like the rip current, you should generally step aside and just watch whatever is bothering you roll on by. Instead of wasting your energy on the negative, you can focus it on the positive and with far less effort achieve far greater results.

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12 More Questions You Should be Asking Yourself

by Stephen Mills September 22, 2010

One of my more popular articles is 12 Questions You Should Be Asking Yourself. Please consider reading it. Here are 12 more for your consideration. The ultimate point is that you should stop and recognize when you are acting out of habit or social norms and simply ask yourself “Why?” for anything you do.

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Keep Your Eyes Off the Clock

by Stephen Mills September 11, 2010

We have lost the ability to think about things in terms of themselves, and have instead started measuring everything by clock time. Instead of using clocks for the good they can bring, we have allowed them to control us and are taking orders from a ticking mechanical monster.

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In defense of Laziness

by Stephen Mills September 4, 2010

I dream of being lazy, of having all day to just do whatever I feel like at any moment. I dream of being able to do only a few things that don’t take a lot of time, but that matter a great deal – or not. I don’t see anything wrong with wanting to do less. The world is full of energetic and ambitious people being busy but not doing a whole lot that matters. The world is full of active people trying to force their ideas on others. How I wish they would get lazy and shut up.

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How To Enjoy Work That Makes You Miserable

by Stephen Mills August 28, 2010

The bottom line is you can choose a positive or a negative attitude about whatever you are doing and in that choice lies the difference between joy and misery.

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Deep Death Bed Thoughts

by Stephen Mills August 21, 2010

I’m thinking old age regret is going to suck. In order to avoid it, I find it useful to put myself on my death bed and imagine how I will feel. It’s easy to piss your precious life minutes away when you are young, or even when your not so young, but it is sometimes helpful to realize at some point you are done and will get none of them back.

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Don’t Give Away Your Happiness

by Stephen Mills August 7, 2010

Your happiness is very precious; it may be the most important gift you have been given. And yet I would wager that you are giving much of it away. I do. We all do.

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