Comments on: An Optimal Balance to Your Life http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/an-optimal-balance-to-your-life.html Tools to improve your mind and escape the trap Fri, 10 Feb 2012 13:47:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Dr. Annette Colby http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/an-optimal-balance-to-your-life.html/comment-page-1#comment-10078 Dr. Annette Colby Tue, 06 Oct 2009 00:26:45 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1795#comment-10078 I absolutely agree with your blog post. During these past twelve days, my parents have been visiting. At first I thought I could balance everything--work, writing, moving forward with publishing my book, entertaining, and having a good time. I thought that if I just got up a little earlier or went to bed a little later then I could fit it all in. After the first couple of days I felt myself wound up and anxious. So I went inside, assessed my priorities, and made a new decision to not be the "perfectly" balanced person. I don't see my elderly parents that often, and taking twelve days off wasn't going to make my business world come tumbling down. After making the decision, I was really able to relax and have a great time with my family. Work is still sitting here waiting and will eagerly accept me back with open arms! I absolutely agree with your blog post. During these past twelve days, my parents have been visiting. At first I thought I could balance everything–work, writing, moving forward with publishing my book, entertaining, and having a good time. I thought that if I just got up a little earlier or went to bed a little later then I could fit it all in. After the first couple of days I felt myself wound up and anxious. So I went inside, assessed my priorities, and made a new decision to not be the “perfectly” balanced person. I don’t see my elderly parents that often, and taking twelve days off wasn’t going to make my business world come tumbling down. After making the decision, I was really able to relax and have a great time with my family. Work is still sitting here waiting and will eagerly accept me back with open arms!

]]> By: Ian | Quantum Learning http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/an-optimal-balance-to-your-life.html/comment-page-1#comment-10065 Ian | Quantum Learning Mon, 05 Oct 2009 15:30:10 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1795#comment-10065 This 'good enough you' is such a powerful concept. It's great for combating all that internal criticism when comparing myself to some mythical image of 'perfect' - whether it's father, husband, son, blogger .. whatever. 'Good enough - and slowly learning to be better' .-= Ian | Quantum Learning´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.quantumlearning.pl/the-miracle-of-birth" rel="nofollow">The miracle of birth</a> =-. This ‘good enough you’ is such a powerful concept. It’s great for combating all that internal criticism when comparing myself to some mythical image of ‘perfect’ – whether it’s father, husband, son, blogger .. whatever. ‘Good enough – and slowly learning to be better’
.-= Ian | Quantum Learning´s last blog ..The miracle of birth =-.

]]> By: Tracy http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/an-optimal-balance-to-your-life.html/comment-page-1#comment-10033 Tracy Sun, 04 Oct 2009 15:57:50 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1795#comment-10033 Learning to embrace good enough has made such a big difference in my life. It's amazing how much we put on our plate then wonder what is wrong with us that we can't do it all. I try to put my effort where it will matter most and have decided not to be afraid to cut out those things that aren't helping my long term goals. When I was a kid, I had to do everything perfectly or I gave up. I can't imagine how much I missed out on with this policy. This is something I do not want to pass on to my children! Learning to embrace good enough has made such a big difference in my life. It’s amazing how much we put on our plate then wonder what is wrong with us that we can’t do it all.

I try to put my effort where it will matter most and have decided not to be afraid to cut out those things that aren’t helping my long term goals.

When I was a kid, I had to do everything perfectly or I gave up. I can’t imagine how much I missed out on with this policy. This is something I do not want to pass on to my children!

]]> By: Walter http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/an-optimal-balance-to-your-life.html/comment-page-1#comment-10014 Walter Sun, 04 Oct 2009 08:05:24 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1795#comment-10014 I'm puzzled of the fact that we allow ourself to put much effort on things that will give no lasting benefit. What's wrong with us. We only realize the important things when we face sudden tragedies. Your 80/20 rules is an awareness for all of us. :-) I’m puzzled of the fact that we allow ourself to put much effort on things that will give no lasting benefit. What’s wrong with us. We only realize the important things when we face sudden tragedies. Your 80/20 rules is an awareness for all of us. :-)

]]> By: Diggy - upgradereality.com http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/an-optimal-balance-to-your-life.html/comment-page-1#comment-9991 Diggy - upgradereality.com Sat, 03 Oct 2009 17:13:50 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1795#comment-9991 Heya Stephen! Yes I agree, I think the theme that goes with this post is that you can please anybody but not everybody. It's about prioritizing and being as effecient with your time as possible. Sometimes you will do less than needed and sometimes more than needed. I think that by conciously thinking about it that you have more control over it, but you will never be perfect. Thanks for the great post! Have a rockin day Cheers! .-= Diggy - upgradereality.com´s last blog ..<a href="http://upgradereality.com/diggy-upgrade-reality-1000-reader-challenge" rel="nofollow">Introducing Diggy & the 1000 reader challenge!</a> =-. Heya Stephen!

Yes I agree, I think the theme that goes with this post is that you can please anybody but not everybody. It’s about prioritizing and being as effecient with your time as possible. Sometimes you will do less than needed and sometimes more than needed.

I think that by conciously thinking about it that you have more control over it, but you will never be perfect.

Thanks for the great post!
Have a rockin day
Cheers!
.-= Diggy – upgradereality.com´s last blog ..Introducing Diggy & the 1000 reader challenge! =-.

]]> By: Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/an-optimal-balance-to-your-life.html/comment-page-1#comment-9987 Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker Sat, 03 Oct 2009 15:50:00 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1795#comment-9987 Being in balance doesn't mean being perfect. Being in balance is more about going with the flow and enjoying where you are in your life. Being perfect is an extreme and extremes are never healthy. This is a great article. Thanks for sharing your wisdom. Attempting to be perfect, do everything perfectly is part of the dysfunction of my childhood of secrets and incest. So much freedom comes from giving that dysfunction up. Going with the flow doesn't mean that I don't have plans and dreams. It just means letting go of what isn't my responsibility in the first place. .-= Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/SpiritualJourneyOfALightworker/~3/EUox_1n1CSQ/your-outer-conflicts-mirror-your-inner.html" rel="nofollow">Your Outer Conflicts Mirror Your Inner Conflicts</a> =-. Being in balance doesn’t mean being perfect. Being in balance is more about going with the flow and enjoying where you are in your life. Being perfect is an extreme and extremes are never healthy. This is a great article. Thanks for sharing your wisdom. Attempting to be perfect, do everything perfectly is part of the dysfunction of my childhood of secrets and incest. So much freedom comes from giving that dysfunction up. Going with the flow doesn’t mean that I don’t have plans and dreams. It just means letting go of what isn’t my responsibility in the first place.
.-= Patricia – Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker´s last blog ..Your Outer Conflicts Mirror Your Inner Conflicts =-.

]]> By: Gordie Rogers http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/an-optimal-balance-to-your-life.html/comment-page-1#comment-9985 Gordie Rogers Sat, 03 Oct 2009 13:56:29 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1795#comment-9985 I think you're right about that, Stephen. Lol! .-= Gordie Rogers´s last blog ..<a href="http://lifestyledesign4u.com/2009/10/saturday-spew-and-shout-out-october-3rd-2009/" rel="nofollow">Saturday Spew And Shout Out: October 3rd 2009.</a> =-. I think you’re right about that, Stephen. Lol!
.-= Gordie Rogers´s last blog ..Saturday Spew And Shout Out: October 3rd 2009. =-.

]]> By: Stephen Mills http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/an-optimal-balance-to-your-life.html/comment-page-1#comment-9984 Stephen Mills Sat, 03 Oct 2009 13:19:45 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1795#comment-9984 Hello again Gordie! I wonder if 20% of the cookies bring 80% of the fat? LOL - I think calories may be more linear in their impact. Hello again Gordie! I wonder if 20% of the cookies bring 80% of the fat? LOL – I think calories may be more linear in their impact.

]]> By: Stephen Mills http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/an-optimal-balance-to-your-life.html/comment-page-1#comment-9983 Stephen Mills Sat, 03 Oct 2009 13:17:34 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1795#comment-9983 Hi Dani. Thank you and I'm glad you enjoyed it. Hi Dani. Thank you and I’m glad you enjoyed it.

]]> By: Stephen Mills http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/an-optimal-balance-to-your-life.html/comment-page-1#comment-9982 Stephen Mills Sat, 03 Oct 2009 13:17:06 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1795#comment-9982 Hi Jay and thanks for stopping in. Sounds like you've got the 80/20 rule down just right :-) Hi Jay and thanks for stopping in. Sounds like you’ve got the 80/20 rule down just right :-)

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