Comments on: A Values-Based Approach to Goals http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/a-values-based-approach-to-goals.html Tools to improve your mind and escape the trap Fri, 10 Feb 2012 13:47:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: GOALS by lindalib - Pearltrees http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/a-values-based-approach-to-goals.html/comment-page-1#comment-118635 GOALS by lindalib - Pearltrees Sun, 04 Dec 2011 00:42:45 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1982#comment-118635 [...] A Values-Based Approach to Goals Let’s cut right to the chase. While you are working toward that distant goal, what about right now? I touched on this in my article Redefining Our Ultimate Goals . I’m a strong believer in goals, but at some level traditional goal setting seems to conflict with living in the present, being happy now, and a lot of other things I and others talk about. Should you sacrifice yourself now for some future goal? Maybe, but then again maybe it won’t be worth it when you get there. [...] [...] A Values-Based Approach to Goals Let’s cut right to the chase. While you are working toward that distant goal, what about right now? I touched on this in my article Redefining Our Ultimate Goals . I’m a strong believer in goals, but at some level traditional goal setting seems to conflict with living in the present, being happy now, and a lot of other things I and others talk about. Should you sacrifice yourself now for some future goal? Maybe, but then again maybe it won’t be worth it when you get there. [...]

]]> By: Paul http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/a-values-based-approach-to-goals.html/comment-page-1#comment-15027 Paul Thu, 07 Jan 2010 00:26:45 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1982#comment-15027 Once you've created your goals, the next - and probably the most important step - is to actively monitor them. Research has shown that self-monitoring of your goals is the key to achieving them, no matter what they are. As well as reinforcing the motivation to succeed at a goal, and giving more attention to it, it also creates awareness into how you are progressing and what areas you need to improve. There's a free web site called GoalHappy.com that allows you to do this and to also let your friends and family track your progress for extra encouragement! Once you’ve created your goals, the next – and probably the most important step – is to actively monitor them.
Research has shown that self-monitoring of your goals is the key to achieving them, no matter what they are. As well as reinforcing the motivation to succeed at a goal, and giving more attention to it, it also creates awareness into how you are progressing and what areas you need to improve.
There’s a free web site called GoalHappy.com that allows you to do this and to also let your friends and family track your progress for extra encouragement!

]]> By: LostinTranslation http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/a-values-based-approach-to-goals.html/comment-page-1#comment-13917 LostinTranslation Tue, 15 Dec 2009 20:40:06 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1982#comment-13917 Stephen, As usual, thanks for providing such a thought provoking post! I personally have never really had any goals. Never knew what they were, or was never instructed how to present to achieve. So, therefore, I feel I have been more motivated by the person I am, hence the value system. I guess I never really thought about it before, until I read your post. The beauty of analyzing a value system is that I can now work to actually pinpoint my values, and work towards creating concrete goals, and thereby be more clear on what it is I enjoy in life, and what new things I would like to approach. The road is never easily paved, but the act of just trying to develop this more concrete lifestyle can give creation to a new path in life. Thanks Stephen!! Stephen,
As usual, thanks for providing such a thought provoking post! I personally have never really had any goals. Never knew what they were, or was never instructed how to present to achieve. So, therefore, I feel I have been more motivated by the person I am, hence the value system.
I guess I never really thought about it before, until I read your post. The beauty of analyzing a value system is that I can now work to actually pinpoint my values, and work towards creating concrete goals, and thereby be more clear on what it is I enjoy in life, and what new things I would like to approach. The road is never easily paved, but the act of just trying to develop this more concrete lifestyle can give creation to a new path in life. Thanks Stephen!!

]]> By: Is Passion Necessary for a Meaningful Life? http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/a-values-based-approach-to-goals.html/comment-page-1#comment-13744 Is Passion Necessary for a Meaningful Life? Sat, 12 Dec 2009 06:16:12 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1982#comment-13744 [...] A Value Based Approach to Goals at RatRaceTrap [...] [...] A Value Based Approach to Goals at RatRaceTrap [...]

]]> By: Mike Siete Cinco http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/a-values-based-approach-to-goals.html/comment-page-1#comment-13730 Mike Siete Cinco Fri, 11 Dec 2009 22:49:42 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1982#comment-13730 hey man, Really think you and Cath are onto something with looking at traditional goal setting and removing what is broken. Too much focus on the goal, if it takes you away from falling in love with the path (the moment, the now, the whatever), is reason enough to look for another way. I feel you on saying that your personal freedom is more important than any goal. It's true. No goal can ever bring the kind of freedom you're talking about. The thing about goals is, that when you get there all you want to do is set another one. I know this to be true because setting big goals (to me they feel big) and putting a short time frame to reach them, is all I do in my life. so if we all know this intellectually, then we must find a practical way to fall in love with the path to our goals. The freedom you're searching for is there, on the path... I think :) hey man, Really think you and Cath are onto something with looking at traditional goal setting and removing what is broken. Too much focus on the goal, if it takes you away from falling in love with the path (the moment, the now, the whatever), is reason enough to look for another way.

I feel you on saying that your personal freedom is more important than any goal. It’s true. No goal can ever bring the kind of freedom you’re talking about. The thing about goals is, that when you get there all you want to do is set another one. I know this to be true because setting big goals (to me they feel big) and putting a short time frame to reach them, is all I do in my life.

so if we all know this intellectually, then we must find a practical way to fall in love with the path to our goals. The freedom you’re searching for is there, on the path… I think :)

]]> By: Ronny http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/a-values-based-approach-to-goals.html/comment-page-1#comment-13629 Ronny Wed, 09 Dec 2009 18:14:42 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1982#comment-13629 Write your goals down and track them. I use a little booklet you can download fromshttp://www.isetmygoals.com/goal-setting.html . It is always in my wallet and helps me keeping the focus on what is really important. Enjoy and success! Ronny Write your goals down and track them. I use a little booklet you can download fromshttp://www.isetmygoals.com/goal-setting.html . It is always in my wallet and helps me keeping the focus on what is really important.

Enjoy and success!
Ronny

]]> By: Terry http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/a-values-based-approach-to-goals.html/comment-page-1#comment-13627 Terry Wed, 09 Dec 2009 17:27:07 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1982#comment-13627 Thanks for this. My website is dedicated to helping people identify personal values and align them with their* goals. .-= Terry´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.mylifechanges.com/6-ways-to-let-go-of-all-fear-worry-and-money-stress.php" rel="nofollow">6 ways To Let Go Of All Fear, Worry, And Money Stress</a> =-. Thanks for this. My website is dedicated to helping people identify personal values and align them with their* goals.
.-= Terry´s last blog ..6 ways To Let Go Of All Fear, Worry, And Money Stress =-.

]]> By: Terry http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/a-values-based-approach-to-goals.html/comment-page-1#comment-13626 Terry Wed, 09 Dec 2009 17:26:30 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1982#comment-13626 Thanks for this. My website is dedicated to helping people identify personal values and align them with there goals. Thanks for this. My website is dedicated to helping people identify personal values and align them with there goals.

]]> By: What Other Coaches & Bloggers Are Saying About Goal-Setting « Mine Your Resources http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/a-values-based-approach-to-goals.html/comment-page-1#comment-13565 What Other Coaches & Bloggers Are Saying About Goal-Setting « Mine Your Resources Tue, 08 Dec 2009 14:41:17 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1982#comment-13565 [...] Stephen has written more about his values-based approach to goal-setting, in response to questions I raised about goal-setting. He says, “Identifying your values is far more important than setting goals.” Read more about that over here. [...] [...] Stephen has written more about his values-based approach to goal-setting, in response to questions I raised about goal-setting. He says, “Identifying your values is far more important than setting goals.” Read more about that over here. [...]

]]> By: Cath http://www.ratracetrap.com/the-rat-race-trap/a-values-based-approach-to-goals.html/comment-page-1#comment-13554 Cath Tue, 08 Dec 2009 10:44:51 +0000 http://www.ratracetrap.com/?p=1982#comment-13554 Thanks for joining the debate, Stephen I agree that knowing your values is a prerequisite to setting goals - when you're setting goals, you're essentially deciding your strategy for satisfying your values. ie. My goal is to buy a house (goal) so that I can feel independent/ create a safe, nurturing space/ become financially independent... (whatever your values are). Deciding your values is like deciding what wall you want to climb, and placing your ladder against that wall, before you decide how you'll climb the ladder (using goals). I focus a lot on helping people determine both their conscious and unconscious values, because unconscious values can sabotage your efforts (ie. when you're unconsciously prioritizing protecting yourself from rejection over the value of intimacy.) Values have loads of "value" in clearing up your thinking - they're powerful stuff! I guess the big question for me is whether it's necessary to move on to the goal-setting stuff after you've clarified your values. Traditional goal-setting would start with overall mission/ purpose in life, move on to values, then move on to goals, then move on to tasks/ action lists - a sort of funnel effect, getting more and more specific, focused and procedural as you move down the funnel. I'm wondering if we can stay at the level of values and just keep checking in every so often when we have decisions to make, "Does this fit with my values?" What do you think? Thanks for joining the debate, Stephen

I agree that knowing your values is a prerequisite to setting goals – when you’re setting goals, you’re essentially deciding your strategy for satisfying your values. ie. My goal is to buy a house (goal) so that I can feel independent/ create a safe, nurturing space/ become financially independent… (whatever your values are). Deciding your values is like deciding what wall you want to climb, and placing your ladder against that wall, before you decide how you’ll climb the ladder (using goals).

I focus a lot on helping people determine both their conscious and unconscious values, because unconscious values can sabotage your efforts (ie. when you’re unconsciously prioritizing protecting yourself from rejection over the value of intimacy.) Values have loads of “value” in clearing up your thinking – they’re powerful stuff!

I guess the big question for me is whether it’s necessary to move on to the goal-setting stuff after you’ve clarified your values. Traditional goal-setting would start with overall mission/ purpose in life, move on to values, then move on to goals, then move on to tasks/ action lists – a sort of funnel effect, getting more and more specific, focused and procedural as you move down the funnel.

I’m wondering if we can stay at the level of values and just keep checking in every so often when we have decisions to make, “Does this fit with my values?”

What do you think?

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