From the monthly archives:

June 2009

Simple Genius

by Stephen Mills June 30, 2009
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The idea of an elegant solution, which means a simple but effective solution, is something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. Modern life is complicated, but mostly because we make it complicated. It doesn’t have to be that way. Real genius lies in coming up with an elegant solution to anything and everything.

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Set Yourself Free From Manipulative Relationships

by Stephen Mills June 28, 2009
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Time does not run backwards. You do not get a do-over. Please do not waste another minute with toxic or manipulative people. When you are lying on your deathbed, it is highly unlikely you will say “Boy I’m so glad I wasted my precious life putting up with all the drama and crap in my relationships.”

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Get High on Life With Enthusiasm

by Stephen Mills June 26, 2009
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Enthusiasm and negativity spread out from you like a contagious disease. Imagine the difference, and it’s not hard to imagine, in your children depending upon whether you nag them to death or enthusiastically support their positives? Imagine the difference in your spouse?

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Lovely Links

by Stephen Mills June 25, 2009

I learn so much from my fellow bloggers and I don’t share the love enough.  Here are a few of my recent favorites.  Please check them out. Check out Tim’s excellent article “Make no mistake, these are the good old days of your future. So make the most of them the only time you can, […]

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Well-Being is Better Than Happiness

by Stephen Mills June 23, 2009

Well-being is more a state of contentment and a sense of serenity and peacefulness that comes from knowing you are doing things and living in a way that is right for you. Well-being requires positive action on your part. You are choosing to live according your values.

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Wonderful Video

by Stephen Mills June 21, 2009

I found this on Lori’s blog. Just watch it. You won’t regret it. Get Free Updates to The Rat Race Trap by Email here or via a reader in the top left sidebar.  I would love to have you on board. What do you think?  Leave a comment below.

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Don’t Be Offended

by Stephen Mills June 20, 2009
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Forget about whether you “have a right” to be offended. Forget about whether the other person, or group, or circumstance is truly offensive. None of that really matters. The true problem is you. If you are offended, then you are being a victim. You are letting others control you.

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Blogging The Brain

by Stephen Mills June 18, 2009

Pardon my shameless self-promotion, but Jonathan Wells from Advanced Life Skills an I are collaborating on a new blog called BloggingTheBrain.  We’ve only published three articles but you should check it out.  I think you are going to like it. Here is what we have published so far: About BloggingTheBrain Increase Your Working Memory Vitamin […]

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Stop Being the Victim

by Stephen Mills June 15, 2009
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A victim compels others to rescue him by making them hostage to his alleged circumstances. He drags them into the abyss of his own making? Did I say of his own making? Yes, I did. No matter what your circumstances, you are responsible for your actions from this point forward. Where you are now is a result of your previous decisions and actions. Regardless of what has happened in the past however, you have to power to change your situation now.

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Are You Addicted to Speed?

by Stephen Mills June 13, 2009
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Rushing around from one activity to another, focusing on getting things done, we tend to place all our priorities on accomplishing tasks on our lists – doing routine housework; preparing meals and eating; commuting to work; getting things done at work; putting in time at the gym; driving our kids to soccer games, swimming lessons, and birthday parties; staying in touch with friends; taking the dog to the groomer; and so on. Are you tired yet? In the midst of it all, we become slaves to our to-do lists and become doers instead of be-ers. We give ourselves little or no time feel, to more fully experience much of our lives. We forget that our capacity to feel is the very essence of our vitality. Without feeling, we become zombies or robots, and after a while we are left with a vague sense that our lives are unfulfilled, empty, lacking purpose, and devoid of anything resembling vitality.

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