12 More Questions You Should be Asking Yourself

by Stephen Mills on September 22, 2010


Much of our behavior, whether we realize it or not is automatic and habitual.  How many people go to college, get a standard job, get married, have kids, and move to the suburbs because that represents their life’s dream instead of because that is just what people do?  I suspect very few.

One of my more popular articles is 12 Questions You Should Be Asking Yourself.  Please consider reading it.  Here are 12 more for your consideration.  The ultimate point is that you should stop and recognize when you are acting out of habit or social norms and simply ask yourself “Why?” for anything you do.

  1. Am I rushing through whatever I’m doing so I can get to the next thing that I will rush through and again and again?
  2. Do I really want to buy this or would I rather not want it at all?
  3. Am I disconnecting from what is genuine and authentic in real Life?
  4. I’m I buying something that will provide temporary pleasure or will wear out, or am I buying experiences that I can treasure and/or learn from?
  5. Would I rather be right or be at peace?
  6. Why am I letting what someone else is doing upset me?
  7. Am I refraining from doing what I really want to do because I’m afraid of failure or of what others may think?
  8. Am I trading my life for meaningless material things?
  9. Do I really have to do these things I don’t want to do like commitments, chores, etc?
  10. What is the worst thing that can happen if I … ?
  11. Why am I carrying around this extra mental baggage?
  12. Why?

What do YOU think?  Leave a comment and join the conversation.


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{ 8 comments… read them below or add one }

Jonny September 23, 2010 at 5:08 am

I reckon you can simplify them down to three key ones asked in order.

1. Is it important?
2. Do I really need it?
3. Do I really want it?


Allison September 23, 2010 at 9:22 am

Spot on Stephen. For many of us. For others, maybe they’re not yet ready to hear the questions
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Carol September 23, 2010 at 4:47 pm

These are great questions to ask. I use to do most of them wrong. Now days, I do not ask those questions anymore because I do whatever I want to do. My kids are grown and my life is my own now. There is nothing like doing what you want to do and sometimes that means doing nothing at all.


Debbie @ Happy Maker September 23, 2010 at 6:47 pm

These are very important questions. People have a very bad habit of doing what society or other people think they should do, instead of what their heart is telling them to do. You Jonny say it very well.
1. Is it important?
2. Do I really need it?
3. Do I really want it?
As you say WHY?
thanks Stephen for the reminders. We all need them from time to time.


Alice September 24, 2010 at 9:24 pm

I like the questions that I should ask myself. This may help me to continue on the right path. I find it very easy to think about quiting. I hope that this will help me.


Nea | Self Improvement Saga September 27, 2010 at 6:19 pm

There is so much we can learn by asking these big questions. I really like, What is the worst thing that could happen if I….
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Maggie September 28, 2010 at 10:35 pm

I have been asking myself why, all my life. I guess I have not been listening to my own answers. I will try to start asking all the right questions now. I love your advice.


Larry@ Easy Van Living September 29, 2010 at 10:41 pm

I’m so guilty of #1 on your list. I seem to have trouble rushing through things in life, because I feel like things down the road will be better. For example, I lived in Seattle for about 5 years, but I just worked and worked and saved and saved to get out of there and move someplace to build my own home, never exploring the area. Now, I would love to have some time to explore the Pacific Northwest and see everything that I missed.
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