by Stephen Mills on September 1, 2010
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Here are some odds and ends that I thought might interest you.
Are Men Good For Anything?
Roy Baumeister is a well known and respected academic psychologist who has done a lot of research and published a large number of journal articles. I am familiar with him from reading some of his work on willpower. He has published a brilliant new book called Is There Anything Good About Men?: How Cultures Flourish by Exploiting Men
. I read a lot of the same old rehashed stuff, but every once in a while I come across something truly original; it is so refreshing to encounter something new. Dr. Baumeister has developed what he calls a radical theory on why men and women are different. Whether you agree with him or not, and I found his work persuasive, you have to love an original and in this case courageous thinker. Highly recommended.
Article on thelifething
Jonny over on thelifething blog published a guest article of mine called 10 Easy Steps For Getting Yourself to the Easy Life. You might want to check it out and while you are there look over Jonny’s blog; he does a great job on it.
Radiolab
I just cannot say enough good about these podcasts. If you are interested in how the world works, do yourself a huge favor and check them out: http://www.radiolab.org/series/podcasts/
The Unique You
“When you realize that no one else on this earth can be like you – that no other soul can know the beauty, sorrow, light, and darkness you alone are given to see – then you will no longer want to be like anyone else on this earth. You will, at last, be the fearless individual your heart of hearts has called you to be.” – Guy Finley
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by Stephen Mills on August 28, 2010
If you have followed me for any length of time you will realize that I am NOT a proponent of doing things that make you miserable. I do not recommend staying in a job you hate or any other life-killing behavior. However, on the assumption that at the moment you are in a circumstance or situation that is making you miserable, and that at the moment it is the best alternative you have in front of you, there are some things you can do to improve your experience of it.
This article is focused on work, but the general principles can be applied to any circumstance you turn into misery for yourself. The following are some of the things that work best for me and I think if you put them into practice they will work for you as well. I’m going to use the example of a job you don’t like for much of this article, but the ideas can be applied to anything.
Accept That You Don’t Control the Universe
If I could snap my fingers right now and be free from having to earn a living, be transported to a beautiful white sand tropical beach in front of a lovely glass-fronted home, and be waited on by beautiful half-naked girls in grass skirts, I would snap my fingers. But alas, the universe doesn’t work that way. Instead I will continue to write this article. [click to continue…]
by Stephen Mills on August 24, 2010
by Stephen Mills on August 21, 2010
I’m thinking old age regret is going to suck. In order to avoid it, I find it useful to put myself on my death bed and imagine how I will feel. It’s easy to piss your precious life minutes away when you are young, or even when your not so young, but it is sometimes helpful to realize at some point you are done and will get none of them back.
Some of these thoughts represent my personal experience but many do not; they are just observations of the habits of others. Some of these may offend you, but don’t take it that way. What’s good for you may not be good for others. In the end, I hope they stimulate you to think a little about what you are doing with your precious life minutes. These are not meant to make you feel good; they are meant to make you think.
- Lying on my death bed, I will be so happy I spent my life compromising with my partner. When they left me and took half my money after years of letting them tell me what to do, I thought “Wow, that was really worth it.” [click to continue…]