by Stephen Mills on February 7, 2010
Note from Stephen: This is a guest article by Tess Marshall at www.TheBoldLife.com. Please check out her excellent blog.
We know people who can light up a room with their presence. They are good at building and maintaining relationships. They establish rapport quickly and effortlessly. It seems like everybody is their best friend. Bestselling author, Malcolm Gladwell, call these people connectors.
With observation, guidance and a lot of practice, we can all build and amplify strong personal characteristics and become better “connectors.” The following methods will help you be the “one” others love to be around.
“If we were supposed to talk more than we listen, we would have two mouths and one ear.” Mark Twain
- Make Others Feel They Matter. Listen more, talk less. Make eye contact and clear your mind of any of your own thoughts. A good question to ask another is, “Do you want advice or do you only want me to listen?” Listening creates feelings of appreciation and importance.
“A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are.” – Unknown
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by Stephen Mills on February 6, 2010
by Stephen Mills on February 1, 2010
“He who looketh upon a woman loseth a fender.” — Sign in auto repair shop
“The question is not Is there life after death? The question is, Is there life before death?” — Alan Cohen
“Talk is cheap because supply exceeds demand.” –Unknown
“All the beautiful sentiments in the world weigh less than a single lovely action.” — James Russell Lowel
“The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits.” –Unknown
“Tell your boss what you think of him, and the truth shall set you free.” – Unknown
“This above all; to thine own self be true.” — William Shakespeare
“Suppose you were an idiot and suppose you were a member of congress. But I repeat myself.” — Mark Twain
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by Stephen Mills on January 31, 2010
A while back, Jonny at thelifething.com ask me to participate in a success eBook by answering two questions: What is Success? and How Do You Achieve it? I had to answer each question with a single sentence and that made it tough. There are a lot of ways to answer both questions and putting them in a single sentence is necessarily going to limit your answer, but I thought it was great idea. Head on over to The SUCCESS EBook (it’s free) and find out how 25 others answered the same question. I was surprised at how many of the definitions of success reflected thoughts similar to mine in that they didn’t emphasize material success.
I answered that success was having the freedom and ability to do those things you truly want to do and that reflect your most deeply held values. I said that you achieve success by eliminating the 80% to 90% of your commitments, activities, and relationships that don’t totally align with those values.
You may think that 80% to 90% is extreme, but I’m sticking with it. When people are making the choices about what to stop doing to make room for the things they really want to do, they [click to continue…]